You are a snowflake.
It is so easy to look at what someone else is doing and think - hey - yeah! if I do that thing I TOO WILL GET THE SAME RESULTS. Sadly, my friend, this is not true. Well... not always true. Everyone is an individual with their own life experience and journey.
Who knows what came before that allows them to act in the way that they do AND who knows what will come after. Crapshoot.
All you know is your own story.
You are your own experiment.
There are certain tenants that seem to hold true for MOST people. If you want to lose weight, cutting out refined carbs, sugar, and alcohol is a pretty safe bet.
But! You might think... I have this skinny friend and all day er'yday all she eats is candy. AND SHE IS SKINNY! HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE!?
Well, she is on a different journey and at a different place. The truth is no one wins on a candy diet. No. One. You may not see it in their waistline but sugar is no joke (see: sugar no joke here and here and here).
This makes me think of a piece from Ira Glass, he was talking about a young girl with natural born talent to sell and be charismatic. She was trying to coach her cousin to do the same thing, but her cousin is someone totally different and what works for her isn't going to work for him. To quote Ira "But of course, that is like somebody who's always been skinny giving advice to people on how to diet. This stuff just comes easily to her."
Truth Ira. Truth.
What works for you, might not work for someone else.
I want to say it over and over again because it is SUPER DUPER EASY to forget. You see someone in a slice of time and it seems like that time is eternal. They always get to eat Tim's Salt and Vinegar chips and NEVER HAVE ANY PROBLEMS!
Not true. You don't know anything about how they sleep, if they suffer from an anxiety disorder, if they have "eaten clean" for the past gazillion days and they are like eff it GIMME A CHIP, if they are depressed, if they are a really actually truly healthy person that can get away with a bag of Tim's and not suffer. You don't know.
What you do know is your journey.
Focus on that.
People need to eat differently at different times in their life based on a crap ton of things.
- Do you need to heal?
- Lose weight?
- Gain weight?
- Have high cognitive function?
- Sleep better?
- All of the above?
The point is there are different reasons to eat different ways and you are always changing. There is no "perfect diet" but there are better choices for different times in your life. There are also some general rules that are pretty consistent.
These pieces I will be delving into in posts to come, but my goal here is for you to -
Stop. Pause. Think.
What is your journey?